If you think you’re so enlightened, go spend a week with your parents.
(Author and teacher, Ram Dass)
Gabor Maté is known for his ability to shine a spotlight on difficult issues with refreshing clarity and for his creative approaches in working with people and understanding ourselves. Now, along with his son Daniel, he tackles a common topic often overlooked: relationships between parents and their adult children. This weekend will provide insights into this often sticky reality and look at ways to promote understanding and reconciliation.
The parent-child relationship remains important into most people’s adult years, but too often its possibilities elude us. Indeed it can be difficult to even talk about. Family relationships are often fraught with complexity, and the unique relationship between parent and child can be challenging well into adulthood. Old dynamics have a way of clouding our views of one another in the present, giving rise to unpleasant reactions and interactions. Sometimes we seek to avoid conflict by keeping each other at an emotional arm’s length, creating yet another impediment to genuine connection.
For most of us, the relationship with a parent or an adult child is “just there”, at whatever level of quality or difficulty. We resign to it, take it for granted, or even feel defeated around it.
Yet the life journey of parent and child could remain until the end a fascinating and deeply fulfilling pilgrimage. Underneath the routine interactions, superficial communications, conflict, resentment or even alienation, is often a mutual, if hidden, desire for something more.
Gabor and Daniel Maté have been through their share of challenges. They contend that with the right kind of inquiry, attitude, and practice, you can successfully transform regrets, recriminations or wishful thoughts to tangible, present-moment possibility. In this interactive event, they invite you to unlock the tremendous potential of this crucial and changeable relationship, which is truly like no other. For many participants, this weekend will be the beginning of a new and exhilarating, and often challenging, lifelong conversation.
Moving beyond these repetitive patterns would free us up to relate to one another in the present and enjoy the many benefits of an authentic relationship. But how?
Gabor and Daniel will examine the historical source of old patterns with compassion, humour and insight, and – most importantly – helps clear the way for a new relationship, unencumbered by what came before.
This weekend program consists of two parts. Attendees are welcome to attend all three days/ Friday evening only.
You Will Learn:
- What makes the parent/adult child relationship uniquely challenging
- Why each partner finds it so difficult to experience the other in the present moment
- What it means to set an intention for a renewed, authentic relationship
- The importance of building structures that will support a new relationship
- Some techniques of “trouble-shooting” when difficulties arise